Monday, July 27, 2009

Unintended Compliment

As we talked about the garden last night, Gary mentioned how nice it looks and how weed-free. He wasn't saying "thank you" and he wasn't intending to compliment; it was just an observation. Since most of the weeding is done during the day while he's at work --and when the mosquitos aren't quite so vicious-- I don't think he realizes how much time is spent on the weeding. Actually, I'm the one doing it, and I don't realize how much time is spent on it either; I just keep getting distracted out there whenever I go to move the sprinkler and then just grab that one dandelion out of the soil ... and 45 minutes later come back indoors. Oops. That weeding can be addictive when it's not a "chore" for the day and you're "just going to get that one." Kinda like Lays Potato Chips -- betcha can't eat just one.

I don't know why, but his comment last night, which wasn't even intended to be nice or make me feel good, is one of the nicest compliments I've heard in a long time. It makes me think about what I've read on the topic of self-esteem and praise and what kind of compliments actually help encourage a person.

And, really, the garden does look very nice.

1 comment:

  1. Growing up, I spent hours in the garden weeding. Especially when I was home from high school in the summers, it was kinda relaxing-an excuse to spend time outdoors daydreaming. Having my own garden is one of the many things I'm very excited about when we finally get settled somewhere.